A few years ago I purchased the book ‘The 5 Love Languages’ which had been recommended to me.
I will be honest because that is what I try to do here. I read the book & could not figure out what my love language was. When you are at a place in your life where you are unhappy & unclear, sometimes you are not ready for the message you are trying to learn.
I was so frustrated that I could not get out of my ‘head’ and figure out my feelings about a seemingly simple quiz. The quiz is a question followed by 2 choices. You are supposed to determine which of the 2 choices you would prefer. Would you rather your partner (a) or (b).
So here we are a few years later & a LOT of work on myself later. The passage of time & moving forward made me go back to the book.
For those who have not read this book, Gary Chapman describes 5 languages that are the most common ways people give & receive love. Not understanding what your language is or the language your partner speaks often leads to unhappiness in a relationship. It’s not about the ‘love’ exactly, it’s more about getting what you need the way you need it. It really makes sense.
The 5 languages are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service & Physical Touch
When you think about it, some of it is easy to determine if you think about it.
What makes you feel good/better?
~ your partner giving you a gift
~ you partner giving you a hug
or how about
~ telling you they appreciate you
~ doing the dishes or keeping the house clean
Do yourself a favor whether you are in a relationship or not, get the book, read it & take the quiz. When you know what you ‘need’ & what your partner ‘needs’ it makes things so much easier.
I am Words of Affirmation
with Acts of Service running a strong 2nd 🙂